I typically focus on ways to enhance your career and your work-life balance in my blog, but I’ve decided to start adding occasional posts on the other end of the spectrum…retiring.
OK, many of us may be too young to consider it, and still others may want to work until the day we drop dead. But most of us look forward to the day we don’t have to dress up and attend another meeting, or performance review, etc.
As a kickoff to my retirement coverage, I decided to include a guest post from a woman, who was once a high-powered executive, and is now in retirement nirvana.
I interviewed Janet Banks recently about an article she co-authored for the Harvard Business Review about layoffs and middle managers. I wrote about it for MSNBC.com. But our discussion veered off a bit. We talked about what she faced having left the Corporate World behind, and the many people that have been asking her about her experience, so I suggested she write a post for me about her step into retirement.
Banks was a managing director at FleetBoston Financial; a former vice president at Chase Manhattan Bank; and she was an executive coach and organizational consultant.
Her retirement story is unique to her experience and her financial and personal lot in life, but I believe we can all learn from what she learned about retirement.
Here’s her post:
“Four Questions to Consider Before Retiring”
Janet Banks
janetbanks@mac.com
“No more endless meetings of monumental insignificance. No more rants about the boss, budget cuts and layoffs,” I tell my younger Boomer friends, those hoping that the volatile market, college tuition bills and the health of aging parents won’t ruin their plans to retire. I’m lucky to be in the narrow slice of my generation who had the means to shift from thirty-five years of work into this new chapter where the choices are mine. I’m five years out and I’ve never been happier, even though I’m making it up as I go along, without a retirement role model in sight. As a former corporate executive who is also female, I’m used to being ahead of the curve – and that’s why I’ve begun to write about my experiences. I salute people who love their work and hope to die with their boots on, but here are four important questions I’ve posed to those who have asked me for advice about retirement.
Do you have a partner and/or a social network of people who you want to spend more time with, who will have the same availability you’ll have once you leave work? One of the reasons my husband and I retired was to enjoy each other’s company. The sudden deaths of close friends and an accident in a Boston cab spotlighted the fragility of our lives. Even with a terrific partner, I felt lonely after the euphoria of the first three months. I needed friends who were peers, experiencing similar life challenges, and although I knew men who had retired, I wished I had other retired businesswomen to talk to. Lunches back at the bank with former colleagues, listening to rumors about acquisitions and reorganizations were depressing after the first couple of dates. It took two long years to develop a new group of women friends, most of who never worked in business – and that’s been wonderfully enriching. Writing classes and a women’s spirituality group offered me shortcuts to friendships that might have taken me decades to develop – which leads us to the next question.
Are you motivated by a sense of purpose? Free time can be exhilarating or a black hole. Goals are as important in retirement as they were when I was working. I didn’t want to continue the same kind of work I’d been doing. I wanted to experience a new beginning. My goals are to write, to become physically vital through regular exercise, to contribute help where it is needed, to continue learning, and to enjoy people I love. I think Boomers are being set up to feel guilty when they retire if they aren’t re-wiring themselves, transforming America and solving world hunger. I’m not against these efforts, but I’ll offer an alternative framework for setting goals in retirement: do what makes you happy. Being endlessly lazy won’t bring you joy, but being mindlessly busy won’t either. Experimenting has been key for me, and I’ve learned to say no if what I’m trying isn’t a fit. Time is limited and aging is a given, regardless of reports that sixty is the new forty. I also need quiet, to be free of commitments, so that I can listen to myself and to others, so I can be awake to what I value in life – a life that I know isn’t going to last forever. It is a luxury – it is what I longed for when I worked twelve-hour days.
Are you living within your means and saving enough money to provide for your future, regardless of what happens to Social Security or the stock market? No more paychecks or bonuses. I admit to having been terrified when these stopped after having worked every year of my life past college, living paycheck to paycheck for most of those years. What helped was that my husband and I practiced for two years, living on what we assumed we’d have available for the next thirty years. We didn’t spend the income we earned at the peak of our careers. We also agreed that we’d rather live in a trailer with a couple of lawn chairs and a black and white TV than go back to jobs like we left. We come from humble backgrounds, and are in sync with each other about our finances. Amassing wealth was not a goal, nor was buying a second home or other big-ticket luxuries that many of our business friends sought. We paid off our condo, eliminated all debt and know we can reduce our run rate significantly if we need to. We sleep at night, confident and very grateful that we’ve been fortunate enough to save for this time of our lives.
Are you willing to give up the perks? The identity I’d built over a thirty-year career evaporated the night after my retirement party when I hung my St. John suit in the closet, where it still hangs, waiting for a wedding or funeral, when I might wear it again. I miss the wonderful people I worked with – not just those I knew well, but the whole community that I’m no longer a part of. I hired fantastic assistants during my career that simplified the complexity of schedules, travel, budgets and computer glitches. I could go on…When my husband and I meet new people, they ask what he did before he retired. Hearing that he’d been an executive, it is assumed that I’ve been a stay at home mom. My competitive blood boils and then I let it go. The titles, the prestige associated with international jobs and companies aren’t pertinent any more, except for the perspective gained from the experiences. Now I’m a beginner – not an expert, sitting in creative writing classes, soaking up feedback from young classmates and teachers. I do miss having a sense of mastery – I think that’s just human, but learning is more fun. I get a chance to use my old expertise when former staff members call me for some mentoring or for a reference, or when a friend needs some perspective about her organization. I enjoy helping – no fees required.
I began preparing for retirement during my mid-fifties so that I could leave corporate life and live my sixties with the level of personal freedom I’d been craving. I’m looking forward to what I can create, not backwards to what I used to have. Emotionally supportive family and friends, financial security and challenging goals that keep me learning, are the reasons that I’m enjoying retirement.