A recent article in the New York Times titled Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex? got lots of people in an uproar for claiming an equal distribution of the housework meant less sex for those egalitarian couples.
The study found “that when men did certain kinds of chores around the house, couples had less sex.”
How’s that for an attention grabbing nugget.
First off, I’m sick of sensational stories that prey on people’s fears and end up sending our still old-fashioned work-life model back 50 years. And second off, we take reports like this as gospel without reading the fine print that reporters either overlook on purpose or by accident.
The reporter continues:
Specifically, if men did all of what the researchers characterized as feminine chores like folding laundry, cooking or vacuuming — the kinds of things many women say they want their husbands to do — then couples had sex 1.5 fewer times per month than those with husbands who did what were considered masculine chores, like taking out the trash or fixing the car. It wasn’t just the frequency that was affected, either — at least for the wives. The more traditional the division of labor, meaning the greater the husband’s share of masculine chores compared with feminine ones, the greater his wife’s reported sexual satisfaction.
I put the “sexual satisfaction” part in bold because it turns out the researchers of the year-old study she cites did NOT look at sexual satisfaction. They only looked at the frequency of sex.
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