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The Stay-At-Home Dad Myth23 Dec 2013 03:27 pm

By Eve Tahmincioglu and Anne Weisberg

My job is just too demanding, just too complex for me to manage without a spouse or significant other at home taking care of the house and kids. We can’t both work and play meaningful roles at home.

There’s a school of thought out there that two parents with high-powered jobs just isn’t workable, and a front page story in the New York Times this past weekend followed this line of thought when it comes to big jobs on Wall Street.

According to the article, more and more women bankers apparently have spouses who stay home taking care of the kids and housekeeping:

In an industry still dominated by men with only a smattering of women in its highest ranks, these bankers make up a small but rapidly expanding group, benefiting from what they call a direct link between their ability to achieve and their husbands’ willingness to handle domestic duties. The number of women in finance with stay-at-home spouses has climbed nearly tenfold since 1980, according to an analysis of census data, and some of the most successful women in the field are among them.

Unfortunately, articles like this add fuel to the wrong assumption that if you have a tough job, one that makes lots of demands, you shouldn’t think you can meet the job’s requirements and also do right by your personal life.

The story is making a mountain out of a molehill; not to mention giving yet more credence to this as a solution to the issue of work-life fit.

If you look closely at the graphic that comes with the article it says this type of arrangement among Wall Street’s women is still a serious rarity: They remain less than 2 percent of all married women in finance.

2 percent!

That means 98 percent of women in finance are somehow making it work with out a man at home cooking up the bacon.

The problem with spotlighting trends about changing family dynamics that aren’t really trends is (more…)

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