The only thing that should be in a couple’s bed is the couple.
Seriously folks, dogs, cats and kids in the bed with you couldn’t be helping your marriage.
And I mean laptops, blackberries and iPhones too!
Yes, I know many of you are trying to sneak in some extra work at night, in bed, the place where you should be making wild, passionate love to your mate.
There was actually a study done on this horrific phenomenon in the UK by Credant Technologies. It found that more than 25 percent of Londoners took mobile gadgets to the boudoir, and of those who did 56 percent admitted to doing so for three to six hours every night. Not surprisingly, many of the partners of these work-obsessed nut jobs were not happy with their mate’s bedtime electronic fix.
And, the study found, “a staggering 8% of people admitted that they spend more time on their mobile devices during the evening than talking to their partners!” (Credant’s reason for doing the poll was to show how such behavior could also be a security risk for company information, which it can. But that’s besides the point for me.)
I know, we’re all obsessed about work these days. But is life worth living if we don’t have time to talk to our spouse or put down the gizmos for a few minutes of cuddle time?
OK, time to admit your weird bed companion. What do you take to bed at night, other than your significant other?
Do you take your crackberry to bed, or should I say boinkberry?
May 19th, 2009 at 10:37 am
Since I’m on-call 24×7, the BlackBerry is always on the nightstand nearby. Thankfully, there have been very few after-hours calls.
My wife and I often agree to take a laptop to bed with us–usually when we want to catch up on some network show that we missed, or if we want to catch a late-night movie (either on DVD or via streaming video from Netflix).
Apart from the proximity to the BlackBerry, work stays out of the bedroom. Sometimes my grad school coursework (reading, mostly) invades, however.
May 20th, 2009 at 3:17 pm
If I want to read, watch TV, work on my laptop, or do anything but sleep, I do it on the couch in the living room. Likewise, when I want to sleep, I go to bed.
I had enough problems with sleep in the past to do things that jeopardize my ability to get a good night’s sleep. I totally buy the studies that suggest that it’s confusing for your body to “go to bed” only to spend another hour or more reading, working, or doing anything but disengaging your mind and falling asleep.
May 20th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
Holy crap! As someone who doesn’t even own a cell phone (yes…it’s true), this leaves me all googly-eyed. If I’m ever lucky enough to be in bed with someone again (yes…that’s true too), the only gizmos I want in bed with us are the ones nature gave us. (Ok. I know there are exceptions. But I’m not talking about those.)
Thanks for an enlightening post!
Ronnie Ann
May 31st, 2009 at 3:36 pm
‘’You are in private congress with your paramour to creatw several orgasms'’-Robert Graham
There may be a redundancy in many of my beliefs, however it is true. Kamasutra should be required by every man and enjoyed by every woman. Unless your house is on fire or your children’s life is in danger, nothing should interfere with something that feels so good.
Take heed…Republicans do it better!!!