There’s this insane idea that women can do it all on their own.

You know what I’m talking about moms out there. You keep piling on the responsibilities at work and at home and then you wonder what the “F” is going on.

Recently a friend of mine lost it because she was so overwhelmed.

Why? Because she got home from work and no one had picked up groceries. It doesn’t seem like a tragedy? BUT IT WAS DAMN IT! That’s the whole point. Women do too much and we suck at expecting others to help out. Since she usually does most of the things around the house, plus work like a dog at her career, they expected her to do it all.

A study I recently came across shows how much we suck at this.

The survey, by staffing company Adecco USA, asked working parents a host of work-life balance questions, and I was shocked to see that men expect their firms to be doing more to help them achieve that balance. Fifty five percent of the dads polled said they thought their firms could be doing more, compared to 49 percent of moms. And 45 percent of fathers thought becoming a parent impacted there careers, versus 41 percent of mothers who thought so.

For both these questions I would have expected closer to 100 percent of working moms to answer “yes, yes, yes”.

Come on gals out there. We have to stop thinking, without us the world will stop spinning. How come moms everywhere aren’t ranting and raving about how today’s workplace does not accommodate working parents? And hello!!!! Every woman I speak with knows becoming a mom did a number on their careers in some way.

But here we are telling a pollster that it’s not that bad.

“The perception that the work/life balancing act is mainly a female struggle no longer holds up in today’s workplace,” says Rich Thompson, Vice President of Training & Development for Adecco Group North America.

Sorry Rich. I agree that men are picking up more of the slack, but alas, it still is largely a “female struggle.”

But what I find most disturbing about this survey is that women don’t expect more, not just at home, but of their employers. Maybe that’s why work-life balance perks have not become widespread in the work world, because the people that need them the most aren’t outraged or demanding enough. Maybe it will take more men struggling with this balancing act to finally transform the workplace.