Can you sexually harass a man…
This is the typical male reaction to sexual harassment:
I worked at a job with 33 women and I was the only man. You
think sexual harassment bothered me. No way! I don’t think men
care. Of course, it would bother a woman but not us guys.
What man doesn’t want a young beautiful woman paying him
compliments or saying how nice his shoulders, back, etc. look.
That’s what Robert told me recently. He didn’t want his full name used but he wanted to offer his two cents about what sexual harassment means to men and women.
His feelings are not necessarily the feelings of most men. In my column today I explore the growing problem of sexual harassment against men and how many are sick and tired of it.
Personally, I never let vulgar behavior on the part of men I worked with bring me down. I tended to just ignore it, or joke around with the guy as well if I thought the sexual overtones weren’t extreme. I never minded photos of voluptuous women hanging on walls or on computer screens. But I know lots of people out there can be sensitive to such things. Part of me wants to say just get over it. But hey, if you tell a guy or gal to stop, and say it with force then they should.
July 9th, 2007 at 11:19 pm
i am guessing that if a man was happily married and did not welcome advances from women he found not attractive, that would be considered harrassment.
July 10th, 2007 at 7:23 am
i think there’s something to that. i have seen women who enjoy the advances of attractive men, but yell harassment when someone they did not find a looker came onto them.
July 31st, 2007 at 5:54 am
I’m sure it makes perfect sense to ‘eileen mac’ and others that a happily married man wouldn’t welcome advances from ‘unattractive’ women. However, the true attitude of most men (happily married or not) is that just about all female attention is welcome (even if not openly acknowledged as such). And regarding less than attractive women, there’s a manly quip I’ve heard for many years that says “the worst pxxxx I ever ‘had’ was great!”. Also, not sure which popular movie it was, but regarding the sexual disposition of the ‘ugly ones’ the male protagonist replys that “..you pretty much try to ‘nail’ them too!”.
If not 100% true, I would say that such thoughts are much more true than most women might guess…
The problem is that we find something hot about most women who still care about such things.
July 31st, 2007 at 8:19 am
hey LTJ..your honesty is refreshing.
but i have come across quite a few men that don’t welcome such advances in the workplace. i’ll admit, they don’t seem to be the norm.